Do not confuse the inner critic with the ability to think critically!
The inner critic is a voice within you that belongs to a parent, to you, or to a generalised member of some community (such as a professional one).
The critic's job is to devalue, to frighten, to hurt, to bring you down, to ignore the results of your efforts. To drag you into eternal misery and helplessness. Waving your hand at trying to do something: "Ugh, you'd better not start, it won't do any good anyway."
"Haha, and that's the best you can do?! You're a loser!"
"Don't be a laughing stock!"
The ability to think critically is your strongest competence.
Unlike criticism, it gives you internal support, gives you the strength to get up if you fall, to be effective, free of other people's opinions and voices in your head.
‼️The main feature of critical thinking is the ability to formulate a problem.
Many people are deeply mistaken, thinking that this is easy.
They say: my problem is lack of money/bad health/lack of close relationships/desires don't come true.
Say it and include an inner critic.
But it's not a problem!
It's a complaint.
When you go to the doctor, he fills in the "complaints" column. And you list what's bothering you there.
It's the same in psychology.
When you go to a psychologist or a coach, you voice your complaint.
And a competent psychologist (or doctor), at the very beginning of joint work, helps you formulate the problem.
This is because it is 50% of its successful solution.
A psychological problem is always FEAR.
The question is what kind of fear it is and how it is compensated for.
For example, there is the complaint "not enough money".
One's problem will be that he or she has an obsession with making unreasonable expenditures because the fear of poverty is inside.
The problem of another with the same complaint is procrastination, which compensates for the fear of realising the meaninglessness of the job available and the need for professional development.
The problem of a third with a lack of money is fear of losing ties with relatives, of being unloved, which is compensated for by excessive generosity.
Turn your complaints into a formulated problem. And then you will save a lot of time, money and energy to improve your life.
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